Owning and running a practice can be very challenging at times, with often weighty decisions to be made and lofty goals that may seem out of reach. At such times, the people around us can have an influence on what we do and how far we go. The answer to the question, “Can you fly higher?” depends on having the right support system ready and willing to support you.
As Josh Groban sang in “You Raise Me Up”:
You raise me up so I can stand on mountains,
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas,
I am strong when I am on your shoulders,
You raise me up to be more than I can be.
Finding and choosing your “shoulders” can make all the difference in your pursuit of happiness, growth, and success. When it comes to selecting the right individuals or groups to trust for support, it’s crucial to seek empathetic and nurturing figures who will help you soar to new heights.
Here are some key elements of a true and helpful support system:
Trust
In its essence, trust is the cornerstone of any meaningful relationship. It forms the basis of our human connections, and it becomes even more critical when seeking help and advice. Trust is more than just believing in someone’s reliability; it’s about knowing that they genuinely care about your well-being. Trust is the assurance that when you stumble and fall, there will be someone to catch you, offer a shoulder to lean on, and provide a comforting presence.
Empathy
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. When you’re seeking support, look for those who not only listen but truly understand your emotions and perspectives. Empathetic individuals can provide a comforting presence and offer advice and guidance without judgment.
Non-Judgmental Attitude
Support should come without strings attached or a judgmental attitude. Trust those who accept you for who you are and provide guidance without criticizing your choices.
Effective Communication
Communication is the foundation of any relationship. Seek people who can articulate their thoughts and feelings constructively. Effective communication ensures that your needs and concerns are considered and addressed appropriately.
Encouragement and Positive Reinforcement
The best support figures not only understand your dreams but also encourage you to pursue them. They provide positive reinforcement and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. They offer you the strength and guidance to soar to greater heights. Choose individuals who respect your boundaries, choices, and individuality.
Your Heroes
As Bette Midler sang in the movie “Beaches”,
Did you ever know that you’re my hero
And everything I would like to be?
I can fly higher than an eagle
For you are the wind beneath my wings.
The true heroes in your life will support and push you in the direction you want to go. They genuinely care about your growth and well-being. Choose individuals who are dedicated to helping you succeed in reaching your goals, no matter how lofty. They will be the wind beneath your wings.
Reliability
You may even make mistakes in flying high to meet your goals, but your support pillars will be there to catch you, help you back onto your feet, and push you back up. They will provide the emotional buoyancy to help you face challenges big and small with confidence. Navigating life’s challenges needs the right support network.
Remember, you are not alone. Many people in your life are willing to be the wind beneath your wings and it’s your task to identify and nurture these relationships.
Detrimental Advice
Beware, however, that you may have to navigate well-meaning but detrimental advice. Some caring individuals unintentionally pull you down rather than lift you up. They have perhaps had bad experiences or calamities in their life for whatever reason and now try to prevent you from making similar mistakes. Sometimes people may have good intentions but lack the understanding or awareness of your specific needs and goals. Their negatively can bring you down or slow your progress.
Trust Your Instincts
Ultimately, you know yourself better than anyone else. Trust your own intuition when evaluating advice. Make choices that align with your own values and goals. You can be your own hero, you know!
In Conclusion
Finding trustworthy support (the wind beneath your wings) is essential. Whether it’s family, friends, mentors, colleagues or experienced consultants, these individuals offer trust, empathy, and unwavering support in your pursuit of happiness and success. Choose your heroes and soar like an eagle!
